After we “broke up” I thought I would be free of him but that was never his intention, when I told him I didn’t want to talk to him anymore and asked him to leave me alone he refused, he said he still wanted to be involved in our (my) dogs life, and that I needed to keep him updated on everything, who he played with on his walks, what he ate, how he slept etc.
I told him I wouldn’t stop him seeing him whilst we were living there (obviously he lived in the same house) but there was no reason for me to keep him updated/chat to him.
He then told me I was crazy, stalking him, monitoring him, tracking him, abusing my power.
I called him out on his lies and fought back, this came with the price that he would continue to fabricate elaborate scenarios and ways to tell me I was crazy, he accused me of bugging his phone so that I could monitor him, told me that he was afraid I would drain his bank accounts etc. etc. I never had access to any of this, I read his messages only when He was there and I would open his phone or see hem on the preview screen. He always left Facebook and emails signed on so would see them when I logged into the computer at home or at work.
He told me he was scared of me and what I could do to him, in other words he knew I wasn’t stupid and had evidence of all the things he did/covert abuse.
He told me he would get lawyers to arrange custody of Hector, he mimicked what our friend was going through during his divorce and accused me of blackmailing him like our friends ex-wife did, told me this friend said I was crazy like his ex wife and would never change. I tried to get him to see his ridiculousness and explained Hector is a dog, this is not custody battle with a child.
All I ever asked was that he leave me alone and give me freedom if he was done with me... but he didn’t, because he wasn’t. Only now with No Contact am I able to breathe and be free.
#free #freedom #escape